Entering into a new lifestyle without your husband at your side is not an easy one. It takes many adjustments. Aside from the obvious loneliness, sleeping alone, eating alone, going to social engagements alone, and trying to make decisions alone (just to name a few) it’s a journey I wish on no one. But there is one thing that makes it more bearable…having a relationship with Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord. One thing I know…if I hadn’t had my faith resting in Jesus when my husband died, I’m not sure I would have made it through the dark journey of grief. But nearly 13 years later, I can say with all honesty that though I’m not happy with doing life alone, I have more Joy than ever. Why? Because when you are able to see what Jesus brings you through and how faithful He is during the dark, lonely nights; the empty chair at the holidays; financial worries; practical situations that your husband always took care of, you find great Joy in knowing that the God of the Universe has His eye on you. He sees you. He cares for you. He protects you.

If you have this type of faith, then you understand exactly what I mean. You’re not “happy” but you have JOY! How can you not have joy when you can experience the Sovereign God faithfully at your side just when you need Him? Suddenly, though there is one less person in your life, God gives you a whole new family.

When God opens your eyes and heart you enter a whole new world. You enter a new culture with a new language, new perspectives, new values and a new family. Your family now becomes the family of God made up of those brothers and sisters who God also brought out of the desert. This is great news for those who lost the love of their lives. 

In this family, you can go anywhere in the world and find strangers who speak the same language as you…the language of love. You know them by their love for God and for their love for each other.

When asked which was the greatest commandment in the law,

37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’  Matthew 22: 37-39 – New International Version 

Perfect Love?

The truth of the matter is, the more we develop our spiritual relationship with God, the more we see just how sinful we are and more we realize that God’s love and mercy must so amazingly great for Him to want to pursue a relationship with us. Are Christians perfect? Absolutely not! Do we love perfectly? No! Do we live perfectly? No! But the desire is there. The difference is that when we, as true believers in the biblical Jesus, do something we shouldn’t we accept responsibility for it and ask for forgiveness then try not to do it again. 

A New Creation

Having lived 41 years without God in my life, this new world I entered into was a big adjustment. But unlike most adjustments that need to be made in a person’s life; this adjustment was amazing and beautiful. The first adjustment God made in my life was my language. He made it perfectly clear that I needed to learn a whole new way speaking. I believe, without a doubt, that He literally took all the words out of my vocabulary that were not honoring to Him because one day I spoke the world’s language and the next day I spoke God’s language. I did nothing to try to break the habit; it just happened…miraculously.

A new creation! A new language! A new lifestyle! These are signs of assurance that something miraculous has happened in a person’s life. It means when a person sees that they are indeed a sinner and their sin has to be paid for, God changes them from the inside out.

We begin thinking differently…we start to love righteousness and the things that God loves. We love God and believe He exists. Sin doesn’t seem appealing anymore…we begin to feel guilty when they sin against God. God’s name is no longer used as a curse word but a name to be honored and loved.

17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17 – New King James Version

I’ve been a new creation since 1993 and I have never regretted it. I have finally found my place in this short life. There is no more longing for the things that are supposed to bring joy here on earth. There is nothing on earth that can bring me the kind of joy that only God can give. The only longing I have now is a longing to love Jesus more and more every day and to see Him waiting with open arms to welcome me into heaven as He reunites me with my husband again.

Do you want to have this kind of joy? Are you tired of always trying to be perfect, fit in or find the “thing” that satisfies your soul?  A great first step is to buy a Bible and find a Bible teaching church near you.


Do You Want to be a New Creation? 

If what I expressed in the previous paragraphs causes you to question if you have faith or if your faith is strong enough to take you through what is probably one of the worse or THE worse time of your life, you can be sure today that you have faith in the biblical Jesus. The following steps can help you take your steps of faith into the Arms of the Savior…The Lord Jesus Christ.


Sincerely tell God you are a sinner as we all are and ask Him to come into your life.

Romans 3:28
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.”

 Romans 3:10-11
10 As it is written:

“There is no one righteous, not even one;
11     there is no one who understands;
there is no one who seeks God.


Tell God that you believe that Jesus willingly took the punishment for all the sin for anyone who comes to him for forgiveness so they can be saved and spend eternity in Heaven. 

Romans 6:23
23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

 Romans 5: 8 
but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.


Confess that Jesus is Lord and you want to be saved and free from condemnation

 Romans 10: 9 
because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

 Romans 10:13
13 For “everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

 Romans 5:1
Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.

 Romans 8:1
 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

 John 5:24
“Very truly I tell you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.


Decide to follow Jesus and tell others about what He did for us all on the cross. (The Great Commission)

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit”… Matthew 28:19 – English Standard Version  

May God richly bless your journey in finding Him and walking with Him. We would love to hear from you if you took this step. Feel free to contact us using the contact form.

If you read through the book of Ruth, you will see God doing exactly this. It’s truly a story worth reading. You will be encouraged as you read how God sees us and is with us. Nothing escapes His attention.

Have you ever allowed God to be your hiding place? Have you ever surrendered your fears to Him; the only one who can do something about whatever you’re facing? We can tell you from experience when you do that, you will find peace.

Our Prayer for You

Dear Lord, take all those who read these words, who need You to be their protector and comforter and give them peace. Open their hearts and spiritual eyes that they can see and understand that it is only You that provides, protects, guides and deeply loves us. Help us all to make You the love of our lives. Remind us to call on You to express our love for You; not only when we are in need but when we are brimming with joy seeing how You are at work in our lives. You are our hiding place and we are comforted to know that You “rejoice over us with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17